My husband Steve and I have been together since 2002, raising three kids, working and playing together… And after 20 years of marriage, I was ready to call it quits because the painful patterns in our relationship became more and more intense, depressing and hopeless. Sure, we had tried couples therapy, but it didn’t work (and was a waste of money). I was no longer willing to suffer and endure the pain, and I especially hated the nagging, withdrawing wife I had turned into.
Enter Terry Real, an internationally renowned therapist, author, and teacher, who delivers rapid and dramatic results working with couples. Instead of divorcing, we committed to try one more time, and we applied his method. In the process, we learned new tools, discovered our pattern that got us stuck, became unstuck, learned about the losing strategies we fell into and how it harmed our relationship, started practicing winning strategies to repair and vitalize our marriage, dove into healthy listening and responding skills to effectively communicate with each other.
We did deep, transformational, effective trauma work in front of each other. RLT quickly got to the root of our negative behaviors, shed light on where they came from, and taught us how to change them. This was a dramatic transformation and happened quickly.
Since doing this work, our marriage has completely transformed. We are now vulnerable with each other, have sex again (yay!), cherish each other, and know how to communicate so we can hear each other. No more nagging, complaining, putting up walls. It’s a miracle.
MacKenzie’s testimonial:
“What a night-and-day difference Corina’s RLT coaching has enabled in my life. I came in angry, blaming, confused. We worked through anything and everything that came up together — with Corina both gently holding a loving container and being a fierce advocate for my fuller wellbeing and thriving in my relationship and in my life. It’s not easy work since it goes deep, and it is so worth it. I’ve now traded in old patterns of self-doubt, waiting for permission to go for my dreams, people-pleasing, and codependency for taking responsibility for my life, living aligned with my deeper intuition, and daring to show up as my authentic self in relationships that mean the world to me. It’s been eye-opening to see how doing the inner RLT work on “my side” has allowed both myself and my partner to shed old dynamics and step into connection, appreciation, and trust at a whole new level. So grateful to Corina and that she became a certified Relational Life Therapy Coach!”
Will’s testimonial:
“Corina is amazing. This woman is the only reason I get laid and am still married. She makes what is normally in life a very difficult and awkward process extraordinarily easy. It’s been remarkable after only three or four sessions how comfortable my wife and I feel talking to her and being extremely open and honest about intimate things. Our sessions feel like talking to a friend and yet at the same time it’s very clear she’s both highly educated and highly knowledgeable in a very complex and confusing part of human interaction.”
Spring’s testimonial:
“I worked with Corina as my coach about 10 years ago and I realized what I learned changed the course of my life. I became a coach after deeply integrating some of the things she walked me through and taught me. As soon as she shared that she went through a new level of training involving relationships, I jumped on board with her and it’s absolutely transformed our marriage of 9 years. We’re so grateful and are now excited for the next beautiful phase of our marriage. Here’s to another 50 years together with the man of my dreams!”
What makes RLT so special?
RLT (Relational Life Therapy) is different than traditional couples therapy in several ways. Traditional talk therapy (like Steve and I have done – unsuccessfully) often falls short, leaving couples feeling stuck and frustrated. Traditional therapists often stay neutral and take a long time to build safety with clients, and they never side with one partner. However, in RLT I do take sides! After gathering a lot of data and identifying the pattern in the relationship, I get on the side of the disempowered partner, in order to restore balance. We really want to generate movement in the relationship instead of nurturing, nurturing, nurturing, listening to feelings til the cows come home, and nothing changing.
If this sounds scary (“What if Corina beats me or my partner up and disempowers me?”), don’t worry. If I do have to wake you (or your partner) up to the unconscious ways you have been showing up with each other, I do it with a lot of love, tenderness and delicacy. But I don’t tiptoe around the issue once I have identified what’s going on. You want to change this painful pattern, right? You don’t want to just heal surface-level issues, you instead want to address the root causes of conflicts, and do so quickly. Well, let’s do it!
Why choose me as your relationship coach?
Do you realize that only one in ten therapists are specifically trained in couples work? And on top of that, it’s rare to find a therapist or coach with specialized knowledge of men’s psychology. 80% of psychologist are women, and the nuances of men’s emotional, psychological, and relational lives are often misunderstood. That’s one of the reasons traditional talk therapy doesn’t work for men when their wives drag them into therapy… No wonder men are frustrated – not just women!
My training with Terry Real has really deepened my understanding of men’s psychology, and I can’t wait to help you flourish and succeed in your relationship!
I’ve served as a life coach for 13 years – and I helped hundreds of people change their lives for the better. I have a deep understanding of working with trauma and childhood issues, transforming all that manure into fertile ground.
I’m a fellow traveler! I’ve completely revamped my marriage with Steve, and we continue to use all the tools we’ve learned. We are not perfect at all. We are fellow human beings, muddling our way through every single day, moment by moment.
