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Do you have PMS, IBS or gut health issues? Let’s heal them together!
The other day found me on the sofa, sobbing, yet again. This happens every month: a migraine, or whatever it is, that leaves me nauseated, utterly exhausted, sensitive to light, feeling sick like with a flu, and I can’t form a coherent thought. It’s debilitating. And since I’m usually so vibrant and healthy, this once-a-month ocurence really, really scares me.
Dear sister, dear friend, dear woman…. If you are anything like me and many of the women I know, you want to be healthy and vibrant… but you are suffering with PMS, menopausal symptoms, weird gut issues, maybe even IBS. You are so friggin’ ready for things to be better. I know I am.
At the tail end of this month’s sickness episode, I talked with Dr. Deborah Epstein, an experienced naturopath in my area. Talking with her gave me so much hope for healing this once and for all. She explained things to me in such an easily understandable way that I asked her to do a video call with me and record it, and invite you, if you want to come and ask her questions.
So we scheduled a video zoom call for June 29, noon Pacific Time, and we’d love for you to be there to ask questions!
If you want to attend the call, please sign up to be on the call, or to get sent the replay, click on the button below:
Just to give you an idea about the kind of things Dr. Deborah can help with, read on:
When your period comes do you find yourself:
- Parked on the couch with a heating pad on your belly?
- Curled up in a ball, trying not to move?
- Snapping at your spouse and kids, because it’s hard to be yourself when you’re in pain?
- Just plain “out of commission” for those special days every month?
- Worried about money and your job, because you’re missing yet another day at work?
- Popping pills that you’d really rather not take (because you know they’re a band-aid that just makes you more toxic), just to get through the day?
- Terrified that the rest of your life is going to be this way?
Imagine…
- Planning everyday events or vacations, without fear of last-minute cancellations
- Participating fully in your kids’ activities
- Not risking your income or job performance from taking too many sick days at work (or being crabby at your boss)
- Focusing on living your life fully, instead of just getting by
- Achieving this freedom without the use of pain-killers or birth-control pills!
Or here’s the other thing if you are dealing with gut problems:
- Ever feel paralyzed by indecision about what to eat because you don’t know what will trigger your IBS? (And wish you could just eat without fear or anxiety?)
- Decide you just won’t eat before important exams or meetings, because you can’t risk the monster belly noises or embarrassing smells? (And wish you could just live your life without planning absolutely everything around your traitorous gut?)
- Feel better when you have a map in your head of all the known toilets on your route? (And wish you had the freedom to leave the house like a normal person, or even travel like you’ve been dying to?)
- Have to wake up 2 hours earlier than you really need, praying you can poop before you leave the house? (And wish you could just live your right life, rather than organizing it all around pooping or not?)
- Avoid invitations because every dinner out is a night on the toilet just waiting to happen? (And wish you could just have a normal social life?)
- Know food causes symptoms, but stay in your rut, because you don’t believe it can ever be different? (It can.)
- Know food causes symptoms, but resist change because deep down you’re afraid to give up foods you love? (You can love food AND achieve freedom from food triggers.)
My hormones have been shifting a lot, and I’ve been hammered with weird symptoms. I’ve been trying to see a naturopath about them, even did an Ayurvedic cleanse, but nothing has helped.
I found an ally, Deborah Epstein, ND (naturopathic doctor), and I’m excited to share her with you! I read her article “3 Secrets for how to Relieve Period Cramps” and “Get Rid of PMS Anxiety and Mood Swings for Good – 5 Root Causes”, and I loved what I read.
I started corresponding with her, and she invited me for a free talk over the phone to learn more about what I need.
I’m super excited about her online program, which starts June 6th, so I can discover my unique inflammatory trigger foods, understand my food sensitivities and finally heal my health issues.
Do you want to join me? This will NEVER be that inexpensive again!
It’s a whole-foods-based Cleanse/Detox program in your own home.
>> Learn more about this online program <<
In this program you will:
- not fast, and you will not go hungry;
- take herbs and supplements that support your body’s natural detoxification processes, and begin to balance your hormones, tojumpstart true health.
- plan meals, prepare nourishing whole foods, and be supported through healthy lifestyle change;
- receive lots of recipes and meal-plan support, so you’ll enjoy eating healthfully;
- “attend” weekly conference calls, and participate in a private Facebook group online, in which you will get to ask questions, as well as give and receive help, feedback and support;
- learn about the underlying reasons for cramps, and how you can access “the healer within” and build your own health;
- be safely and expertly guided by a licensed naturopathic physician and get two 30 minute calls with her
I would love for you to jump in and do this together!!!
>> Learn more about this online program <<
When you click on it, you will read more about IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome), but rest assured that this program also deals with the hormonal stuff I talked about!
If you are scared to do this, here are some FAQ’s in Deborah’s words:
I have a terrible sugar addiction. I’m scared I can’t do it.
You’re not alone; everybody goes in with this fear. I have tried and true techniques that solve this problem. While your first few days will require some willpower, you’ll learn how we use your physiology in your favor, so that you don’t have to rely on willpower as soon as the sugar shift kicks in. I also promise you’ll feel better as a result.
I’m a vegetarian. Will the program still work?
Yes. There will be plenty of food to eat, even for vegetarians. I’ll advise you on special preparation methods if necessary, to make it work best.
I’m traveling within the dates of the program. Can I still join?
It depends on the dates and how long you’ll be gone. Missing one of the Zoom sessions won’t be an issue, since you can watch the recording. But traveling can make the nutritional change tough. Let’s go ahead and schedule a conversation and talk about it. Include the dates of travel in the scheduling form.
I have a very physical job and can’t cut calories. Will I have enough to eat?
Yes! You won’t be hungry. In fact, hunger is an anti-goal of this course, and it is most definitely not a sneak calorie-cutting weight-loss program. The planning and prep portions of the course are designed to make sure you have plenty of the right food available, at the right times.
>> Learn more about this online program <<
For the first and last time, this 6-week, highly interactive course (including 2 private sessions with Deborah) will be offered for only $497.
As a pilot program, it will intentionally remain small. She is capping enrollment at 12 students.
Over half (7) of those seats are already filled.
If you want one of the few remaining spots, let’s get on the phone and get all your questions answered, or figure out if it’s not for you.
Deborah is a doctor, not a salesperson. If you have questions, and it turns out the program isn’t right for you, she has exactly no interest in enrolling you.
You don’t have to go it alone. And you absolutely don’t have to collapse on your kitchen floor, crying and confused.
There’s nothing to lose. But you may regain your life.
This offer will close
…as soon as we reach 12 students, so schedule now.
So please join me in this online program. I am super excited to do it, and we’ll get a lot of support together. We can do this!!!
Our women’s retreat this year
My teaching partner Lindsay Huettman and I scheduled this year’s women’s retreat for September 21 and 22! Lindsay also happens to be my best friend, and she’s a wonderful psychotherapist/grief counselor.
Together, we created a two-day retreat at my beautiful homestead that focuses on nourishment and rejuvenation of your body, soul and spirit.
We will support a small group of women (hopefully you’ll be one of them) to transform old, painful patterns that have been showing up in your life over and over again. These old patterns have created havoc in your life – maybe low-grade depression, unhappiness, burn-out, shame and guilt, isolation…
Together with Lindsay and my guidance and a very safe container of support with other women, we will bring these old patterns and unconscious beliefs to the surface. We will teach you powerful tools and practices to let go of them, and we’ll start cultivating new ways of relating to yourself, others, and the Greater Field of Life.
This is life-changing work, facilitated with incredible love and nourishment.
We’ll cook you incredible meals, pamper you in a gorgeous setting here in the Pacific Northwest, and give you plenty of space to relax and unwind.
So please head on over to the website to find out more about this retreat.
You deserve to be nourished and pampered.
You deserve to flourish!
Transform your life in my weekend retreat in California!
Do you want to transform your life in California? I’m co-leading a weekend women’s retreat in Huntington Beach, CA, from May 4 to 5! Please come join me!
- Are you sick and tired of repeating the same painful patterns over and over again?
- Are you feeling confused about the direction of your life?
- Do you feel unsupported and alone?
- Do you want to discover a proven method for life transformation?
If you are a woman who has been feeling the impulse to evolve beyond your current life situation (career, health, relationships, money, etc.), want to break through your old self-sabotaging behavior patterns, and move into a deeper relationship with yourself, others and life…
THEN YOU ARE IN THE RIGHT PLACE!
Join us for a powerful weekend of transformation as we take an inward journey into our inner landscapes.
In this two-day retreat you will:
– Identify and break through painful self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviour patterns
– Get clear on what is in the way of living your desired life
– Learn tools and practices to break through and transform the patterns from the past that are keeping you from being your True and Higher self
– Connect with your deepest desires, discover with what is possible for your life and follow through with the first steps to bring forth your vision
– Receive support to navigate the process of transformation
You deserve to flourish and thrive. Please come join me in this retreat and prepare to be transformed!
Early bird pricing ends April 1st, so please register early!
And please share this with your friends if they live close to California!
Is there something wrong with you?
When things are hard, when you are feeling strong feelings, when you just can’t cope well, do you say to yourself “What’s wrong with me?”
Hmmm… Yeah. I know this question well. I used to tell myself this all the time. What’s wrong with me??? Why can’t I just get over this depression, or not be so anxious all the time? Other people seem to do just fine, so why can’t I?
WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME???????
What if I told you there’s nothing wrong with you at all? What if I told you that many other people feel like there’s something wrong with them, but they just don’t talk about it, so you think you’re the only one, and what if I told you that you are quite normal and human?
The problem is that you are asking the wrong question. Asking yourself what’s wrong with you gives you absolutely no power and will drive you crazy.
See, I used to be convinced that there was something wrong with me, that I was bad, not good enough, and not worthy. Over time, I transformed these beliefs, and my life has reflected that in all of its amazing flourishing.
But these false beliefs still rear their ugly, slimy monster heads every now and then. For example, these past two weeks were insanely difficult, because my husband and I have been working through some deep, deep muck and issues that have been going on for the almost two decades of our relationship. Hanging out there in the muck has not been fun. I cried a lot. I raged. I withdrew. I felt there was something really, really wrong with me.
At some point in one of my crying bouts, I yelled “What’s WRONG with me?” I felt broken.
That’s when my husband took my snotty face in his hands and stroked my hair, all the while telling me that I was not broken (even though all these emotions were directed at him). He reminded me that I was human, and that there was nothing wrong with me.
Duh.
Fortunately, I’ve had lots of training, and I was able to snap out of it and believe him. I’ve had lots of experience taking other people through this mucky field of believing something that’s not true, and completely transforming it. With the right support, you can transform and evolve the way you talk to yourself, the way you relate to yourself, others and the universe.
We all need someone to walk us through this, and I would be honored to do this for you.
If you want my help, I urge you to book a FREE discovery coaching session. I’m taking on a limited number of clients over the next few months, and if you need support, please reach out.
I just received an email from a woman I coached, and here’s what she writes:
“I put my beloved dog to sleep a week ago, and I have taken the last week to be quiet, to be sad or whatever emotion I’m feeling at the moment, with no judgment. I’ve taken this time to be kind to myself, to talk to the little girl inside me in a caring, loving, gentle and patient voice. I’ve allowed myself to grieve as well as to dream, and I’ve taken my dreams seriously and believed in them because I’ve watched them come true again and again.
I feel as if the Universe has my back, that the world is a beautiful place, death and all. I feel whole, human, loved, loving, caressed and cared for by the Universe and by many, many loving humans.
I’m glad I waited to write to you as I feel the sadness of the last week has deepened the gratitude I was already feeling for you. The strength of what you taught me over the course of 2018 in our phone calls has become even more clear through this time. I would not be faring so well, sharing what I’ve been doing to take care of myself, if it weren’t for you.
I had felt disconnected, abandoned, lost – as you said, I was letting the ten year-old me drive the bus – and your gentle strength reconnected me to all that is truly important, grounded me, brought hope and tools to continue getting stronger and more gentle and loving, to myself and others.
My relationship with my husband has turned from anxiety-provoking to jaw droppingly beautiful, graceful, passionate. My businesses are thriving. My self talk is kind(er), my heart is full of gratitude, and I see signs every day that the Universe has my back.
I have notes on my mirror with words you gave me, I have notes in my art room, someday to be turned into art or writing or to just continue to be written in my soul, that you shared with me and brought out of me.
I am so very grateful for you choosing to take the path you chose, for all the twists and turns and ups and downs your life has given you, so that you could be there to provide what you did for me and for others. I wish life didn’t have to be so hard for all of us, but what you have chosen to do with the difficulty – to reach out to others and help us reconnect with our light, our dreams, our needs, our LIFE – is incredibly brave, beautiful and honorable.
Thank you, from the bottom, sides, inside and outside of my heart and soul.”
Three punches in the gut, how my life changed, and what that has to do with you
Not to be melodramatic, but this might be the most important blog post I’ve ever written. It’s life and death stuff. See? Sounds scary, right?
Well, it IS scary, and the reason you haven’t heard from me in a long time is because I’ve been submerged in fear and anxiety, wrestling with those suckers, coming up for air now and then, only to be dragged under again.
In September, I went to my gynaecology checkup, where I felt punched in the gut and hit with a hammer on the head three times in the span of 15 minutes.
The first gut puncher: some of my symptoms indicated that I needed a screening for uterine cancer. Since one of my friends just died of cancer in her nether regions, this news initiated noisy alarm sirens in my head.
The second: a lump in my breast that I was urged to follow up on.
The third: after listening to my heart, my doctor looked at me gravely and told me that I needed to see a cardiologist. Immediately. She had never heard such a wonky heart beat as mine.
Now I don’t know if you know this about me, but I always considered myself super healthy, fit and invincible. You know, hardy German stock. I have very, very rarely gone to the doctor during my 46 years of life.
And now, I was faced with three scary scenarios, including procedures, interventions, and medical specialists.
My first thought: What the fuck?
My second: What if this is serious? What if I die? What about my kids?
All my life, I have pictured myself being old while climbing mountains, shovelling great wheelbarrow loads of goat manure, gardening, holding workshops, teaching, and happily sitting in my rocking chair and knitting sweaters for my numerous grandchildren at the end of the day – white haired, my face sun-kissed, weathered and wrinkled, but vibrant. Healthy.
The three scary health scenarios I got hit with at my doctor’s office didn’t fit into that vision.
After stumbling out of her office with referrals to a cardiologist, breast clinic and a uterine scraping appointment, I got into the car with my husband and broke down crying. I was very, very scared, very, very confused, and it didn’t help that now I really noticed my heart beating erratically and thumping out of my chest.
Have you ever got hit over the head with a 2 by 4, received news that brought you to your knees, asked the question “Why me?” and “Why now?”? Have you ever looked at your children and wondered what their lives would be like if you died?
In the days and weeks following my diagnosis, I didn’t ask “Why me?”, but instead I asked “Why did this happen now?”
I realized that it happened because I do what many of us women do: over-work, over-give, run on adrenaline, and not make ourselves a priority.
If you are tempted to stop reading this right now, because you think I will give you a lecture on self-care, or making yourself a priority, and you know this will never happen for you, I have news for you, sister:
What does it take for you to take your symptoms seriously? Your symptoms could be disease, anxiety, depression, exhaustion, or anything else that has been a pattern for you and creates negative impact.
Will you only pay attention when you get cancer? When you feel suicidal? When you can’t sleep or function in the world?
I ask this with a lot of love, not to shame you or lay blame.
Here’s what I did:
I realized that I’ve been running on adrenaline all my life. This summer was especially busy and emotionally hard. I recognized that I do more now and that I juggle more balls in the air than I did when I was 20. I admitted that I have a pattern of hustling for worthiness, trying to prove to myself and others that I deserve to be alive/take up space, that I’m good enough by doing, doing, doing, achieving, achieving, achieving, hustling, hustling, hustling.
And the hardest thing to admit: I can’t keep going like this, nor do I want to.
So I sold my goats, talked deeply with my husband about our priorities, and spend hours knitting on the sofa and by the river in the sunshine. For the first time in my life, I spent hours just being, without accomplishing anything. No guilt. No shame. No blame.
I won’t lie. It was hard at first. But the more my nervous system calmed down, the better I felt.
And here’s the miraculous thing: opportunities opened up. By me not being constantly busy, amazing things came into my life. One of them was a job opportunity with Feminine Power, the coaching organization I have been studying with (I am now one of their professional program specialists).
Now let me ask you this:
Do you know where your life is out of balance? Have you felt burnt-out, trapped, that things are wrong in your life? Have you pushed that feeling down for years? Have you felt that it is not possible for this to change?
I know how this feels, I really do. But enough is enough. I got my wake-up call. Have you gotten yours yet?
I hope you don’t have to get sick, depressed or burnt-out to get this message:
You are worthy. You are good enough just as you are. You deserve to take care of yourself and meet your needs. In fact, it is imperative. I give you permission to put yourself first. Can YOU give yourself permission to do that?
Here’s some good news:
My uterus is fine. I’m just navigating perimenopause, with lots of weird changes.
My boobs are great (saggier than ever, but just fine).
My heart is fine, too. The cardiologist said there’s nothing structurally wrong, and the irregular heartbeats are quite common with stress, not dangerous, and just a nuisance.
Phew!
What a wakeup call. I am grateful for it, but I don’t wish that sense of drowning in fear on anyone.
Now back to you: Are you sick of muddling through this stuff alone? Do you need support?
I’m here for you.
I am accepting a very limited number of free discovery sessions (45 minutes long) to see if I can help you and support you with my seven week program. It has changed many women’s lives for the better (you can read their testimonials here <—), and with this health scare under my belt, I am now even more equipped to help you navigate scary waters.
Here’s a gift for you so you can balance your energy
And I know that many, many of you and also most of my coaching clients feel exactly the same way.
Your patience is being stretched to the max, you are friggin’ tired, everyone puts their grubby little hands into your space pulling on you. Gurrrrrrr!!!!!!
It’s time to balance your energy and take back your own space, and it’s easier than you think.
During a session with one of my coaching clients, I taught her how to take back her energy after someone plugged themselves into her with a big old energy-sucking cord. We all have these cords from other people, and we do it to others as well.
In these crazy times, we high-achieving, sensitive, awakening women need to make an extra effort to ground ourselves into the Earth, to connect with the life-giving energy of the universe, and to protect our energy from everything that’s coming at us (media, family and friend drama, politics, kids, life).
So I recorded a meditation that I do myself when I feel ungrounded and attacked.
And I want to give it to you so you can listen and clear unwanted energies from your system.
You’re welcome ~ and let me know in the comments if the meditation was helpful for you!
These two online events will change your life!
I’ve done them both, and both of them have made me into the fulfilled, self-actualized, on-purpose woman I am today.
The first one is a free global online event, available for a limited time: How to unlock your Feminine Power.
This is from my mentor, Claire Zammit, and her work has dramatically changed my life. I want you to get a taste of it and discover how you can unleash your power and purpose and step into your destiny.
100,000+ women are coming together for a FREE GLOBAL ONLINE EVENT where you’ll discover how to **Unlock Your FEMININE POWER**
Unleash your POWER and PURPOSE and step into your DESTINY using the simple, proven process Dr. Claire Zammit has discovered in over a decade of research can ignite conscious women to actualize their potentials! —>
>> Click here to download the FREE audio <<
Or if you want to enroll in her paid 7-week online course, click here <—
The other life-changing workshop is all about Facebook, and how to expand your reach, clarify your message, and thus make more money.
So if you are a business owner, entrepreneur, or someone who needs to get their voice out on Facebook, here’s a free training from another one of my mentors.
It’s an online workshop 
💗FREE💗 my business mentor is teaching, and that exact workshop changed my life! She is a red-headed, funny-as-hell lady who has a six-figure business. She taught me everything I know about Facebook, all kinds of tips and tricks, and everyone should know this stuff if they want to reach more people!
It starts Monday, August 6, but you should sign up today so that you won’t miss out!
It blows me away that our Marblemount Homestead Facebook page has close to 5,000 followers – all high quality, engaged people!
Do YOU want to reach more people on Facebook? Do you want more exposure for your message or business?
My own exposure, fan base and income have exponentially increased after I took this FREE Four-Day-Facebook-Makeover workshop. 
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>> Click here to sign up for her free workshop <<
And as always, if you want to sign up for a free discovery session to see how I could help you get on track with your life, click here to do it!
Changing lives, even with a headache
I tell Kai that I’ve had a migraine all day, and that I’m extra emotional, but incredibly happy to help all these women and loving my coaching business so much.
Kai, not usually a touchy-feely guy, and in his usual dead-pan way, gives me a tender, crooked grin and says, “Corina Sahlin – changing women’s lives, even with a headache.”
This induces more happy tears in me, because I know that my son understands my deep, deep commitment and passion to help people.
Also, how’s that sentence for a tagline, huh?
Honestly, there’s nothing I would rather do than coaching women.
I’m not good at small talk. I can do it, I can hang out there, but I get bored and uncomfortable if the conversation hovers in the superficial realms too long. Where I really want to be is deep down, even and especially if it’s low in the muck and yucky shit we all deal with, because I’m not afraid of it. I welcome the struggle, because I’ve been in some pretty scary muck myself, and I’ve gotten myself out of it. Not alone, though, because we can’t become ourselves by ourselves. I’ve had amazing mentors, friends and evolutionary partners to support me, to teach me and hold me accountable.
I think at this point, my biggest message is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and you can’t do it by yourself. We all need guidance and perspective. The weird thing is: Nobody is coming to rescue you ~ you have to learn to do it for yourself, and it helps to have the support of a guide! And boy howdy, once you know the tools and practices to take care of yourself in a deep, emotional way, you are so much more empowered than waiting for your husband/friend/parent/relative to do it!
If you want to learn how to get out of the muck, how to really thrive and flourish (as I am now) you can book a free discovery session with me to see if this coaching work is a fit for you.
Oh, and today is my birthday! I’m officially 46 years old and moving towards having lived for half a century.
This thought is freaking me out a bit.
The other night around the dinner table, after I felt especially tired, my 8-year old daughter looked at me and said, “Mom, you look kind of old.”
Hmpf. Gotta find a way to teach that kid the art of giving constructive feedback, I guess.
And finally, that cake on top of this blog post? My 13-year old son Luke baked that for me, without any help or prompting from me.
I’m one lucky Mama.
Have a wonderful week! And remember, you are not alone!
Would you do this to your best friend?
I’m walking through a moss-covered forest, brushing against Bracken Ferns that are as tall as I am. Every muscle in my body hurts. I feel vulnerable, and not just because sometimes cougars and wolves walk the same trails as I am right now. No, this vulnerability is of the teary kind, the bone-tired yearning for rest.
My husband and I rented an excavator to clear land on our property, and we’d worked our bodies to the max for three days. I have done manual labor like this without blinking an eye for decades, but I’ll be 46 years old in a couple of weeks, and I realize that my energy, stamina and grittiness aren’t what they were at 20.
I’m used to pushing myself hard, both physically and mentally. I am made from hard-working, tough German stock and was raised by parents whose hands were never, ever idle.
I’m used to pushing past the body signals that beg me to stop, to rest, to sit down for a spell. Worse, I learned to talk to myself very, very harshly.
When my body was tired or hurting, I would say to myself: “Come on, you lazy thing, suck it up and push through it. Rest is not an option.”
When I felt sad or depressed, I turned against myself with words like these: “What’s your problem? Stop being so whiny and get on with what you’re doing. Stop complaining.”
When I was scared or anxious, this inner voice yelled at me: “You shouldn’t feel this way. There’s no reason for you to be such a pussy.”
Do you ever talk to yourself this way?
This all changed dramatically when I discovered the Feminine Power work, which is now the modality I use to help other women transform their lives. Through these Feminine Power principles, I learned to become my own best friend and be the guardian of my own well-being.
I will never, ever talk to myself in such a mean way again.
So right now, as I’m walking on the sun-dappled forest path and feel tears welling up, I stop. I turn towards the sadness, feel into it, not to analyze it or explain it away, but to tend to the self inside of me that feels like crying. I sit on a clump of sun-warmed bark, and my little Shi Tzu immediately jumps on my lap and cuddles up to me. My other dog, a huge beauty named Raka, licks my ear.
Thusly surrounded by my canines, with birds singing above, the creek gurgling behind, wind ruffling my hair, I check in with that part of me who feels the grief. And I do what I learned in Feminine Power, I practice what I preach, and slowly, my heart softens, my nervous system relaxes.
I spend ten minutes leaned up against a tree and remember all the times I’ve used the same tools and techniques in other places: locked in a public bathroom stall, since that was the only place I could have a moment to myself to practice my Feminine Power tools, or in the middle of a crowded room at a party when I felt especially unsafe, or in my daughter’s bedroom tending to her at midnight while she was sick.
The tools and practices I learned and now teach are simple, yet hugely transformational. They have changed my life in so many ways, and have made me into a much more compassionate mother, wife and friend.
My question to you is: How do you talk to yourself? How do you respond to your needs?
Are you “should-ing” on yourself? Do you push your feelings down, berate yourself for them, beat yourself up, distract yourself, engage in addictive behaviours, reach for the tub of ice cream instead of feeling what’s going on inside of you, or work-work-work so you don’t have to deal with difficult emotions?
Would you talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself? What would you say to your best friend if she came to you and cried? Would you tell her to stop and get on with it? Would you deny her the need for comfort, rest, a good cry?
So, darling, don’t use this as another reason to beat yourself up. But start being curious about how you relate to yourself, to your feelings and needs, and then ask yourself: ‘Would I treat my best friend like this?’
If you’re appalled at what you find out, maybe it’s time to learn how to be your own best friend. It’s such a better way to live in the world, I promise you.
And as always, if you want help with this, click here to —> schedule a free discovery coaching session with me <—
PS: If you want to be pampered while you explore all this stuff I talked about above, I want to invite you to my women’s retreat at our homestead in August. Find our more —> HERE <— !