Why are you hiding? What is keeping you from being visible?

Why are you hiding? What is keeping you from being visible?

On Thursday, butterflies in my stomach woke me up and wouldn’t let me go back to sleep again.  In fact, his happened every single morning for a whole week before Thursday.  The reason: For months, I had planned to teach a free webinar on how to make Chevre cheese.

When I first came up with this idea, I didn’t know that I would have a worldwide audience of 800 people on Thursday, the day of the webinar.

And not only did I have this huge audience, but I also took a stand for my business: the stand to be visible and play a much bigger game.  That can be really scary, right?

So I bet you believe me when I tell you I was nervous just before I hit the “Go live” button on the webinar.  Once I started connecting with all the people waiting for me, I felt great.  This is what I live for: teaching, connecting with people, delivering value, inspiring folks.

At the end of the free webinar, people were gushing about it, thanking me profusely, and signing up for my paid online cheese making course.

And I felt energized, proud to bursting, fulfilled, and re-inspired to take my business to a new level, thus serving more people and helping to change lives.

Here’s my point: I wasn’t always like this.  I used to be extremely shy.  If you know me personally, you are probably rolling your eyes and thinking, “Great joke, Corina.”  You know me as a bubbly, outgoing, extroverted gal, right?

Well, deep down inside I am a full-blown introvert.  Coupled with my old story of “I’m not good enough, I’m not wanted, and I’m not worthy of attention”, this would make for a pretty bad business person, don’t you think?

Inside of these old beliefs of not being good enough, not being wanted, and not being worthy, I showed up in the following way.  If you have the same false beliefs, maybe you can relate.

  • I didn’t allow other people to see me (I didn’t share my feelings, I covered up my feelings of inadequacy with false bravado)
  • I was hiding (behind the computer, behind a fake smile)
  • I didn’t pursue opportunities although I was qualified
  • I downplayed my own value, talents and gifts
  • I undercharged financially
  • I assumed people didn’t want me to “play” with them
  • I said “No” a lot, even though I wanted to say “YES”
  • I didn’t promote myself, make myself visible, show up

Does this sound familiar?  Are you doing some of that yourself?  Why?  How could you change that?  Does it feel good to keep hiding and not going for your dreams?  

Well, my darling, at some point, it feels like shit, doesn’t it?  When everybody else is thriving and growing, and you wonder what the hell is wrong with you because you can’t shine like that, thrive like that, or own your own value like the “big players”.

Here’s what I want to tell you: If I can change this, you can, too.

You might need a little help figuring out the underlying patterns and beliefs, and the old ways of being that keep reinforcing your old identity.  And that’s okay.  We all need a little help.  We all need support.

You could schedule a free session with me to see how I can help.

Maybe all you need to change your hiding is an awareness of being sick of playing small.

Maybe you gotta journal about it and ask yourself what you really are yearning for, and what’s holding you back.

Or you could pretend and act “as if”.  Who would you be, how would you talk, what steps would you take if you were the person you want to be?

You could visualize yourself ten, twenty, thirty years into the future, as a fully self-realized, successful, happy woman, and then see what she has to say to your self in the present.  What kind of advice would she give you?  What skills and capacities do you need to learn and practice to show up like this fully expressed woman of your future?

Be gentle with yourself.  Don’t beat yourself up.  Just be curious!

And honestly, do contact me for a free session if you want help!

Sending you much love,


PS: Oh, and if you want to watch the replay of my webinar, where I teach people how to make Chevre Cheese, you can do that here. For free, of course. But it ends on Sunday, so watch it soon.

Last chance, and a special invitation for you

Since you are reading my blog, I assume you know that I’m a life coach.  I don’t like the word “life coach” though.  The word “coach” conjures images of someone with a whistle in their mouth, yelling and jumping up and down.

I see myself more as a midwife helping people birth their highest potentials.  Yes, that’s a mouthful and sounds kind of lofty, doesn’t it?

Truth is: as a life coach (or mentor, or midwife for highest potential), I help to change people’s lives, often dramatically.  My clients come to me with a problem and unrealized potentials, and I help them make conscious not only why these problems or barriers to flourishing exist in the first place, but more importantly transform and evolve them.  During and after our work together, my clients learn to show up in new and different ways, apply the tools I teach them, and get lasting results.

Since my clients get such great results, and since I’m getting busier with my life coaching practice, I want to tell you about a few things:


  • I’m raising my prices at the middle of June to reflect my value and all the expenses of my continued education to make me into a world-class coach.  Prices will go up from $70 per session to $97 per session.  Instead of my $500 coaching package for 8 weeks, it will cost $697.



  • I will accept a total of five new clients for the next 3 months.  So if you schedule your free session now, and we both decide this is a fit for us, you will be able to get started with improving your life right away instead of having to wait til new spots open up.


Here are some of the many testimonials from my clients:


“When I came to my first session, I was in a years-long deep grey chasm, so ready to transform, but in need of help. The relief I felt at the finish of that very first session compounded enormously in the course of six weeks, and enabled me to again find my sense of purpose and possibility in life.”  Betsy Delph

“I believe Corina was born to do this work. I recommend her to anyone who is seriously looking to make a breakthrough.”  Kirsten Meekinson

“Throughout our work together, I keep being absolutely amazed at how quickly things have been shifting for me! The constant background anxiety has lifted, I am now able to self soothe very well and as a result feel relaxed and at ease in my life, the depression I’ve felt for years is no longer there, and my energy levels have been improving rapidly.”  Julia Schneider


“Coaching with Corina has dramatically changed my life!”  Brandie Tremper


“Working with Corina as my coach has been one of the most clarifying and rewarding experiences of my life!”  Anne Roda

“Corina’s help has been life-changing to say the least! I cannot say enough about Corina’s work and how much it has helped me. For the first time in my life, I feel truly empowered and ready to see where my hopes and dreams take me.”  Tracy Sippl


So please contact me for a free discovery session to explore how we can catalyze your deepest flourishing and thriving! 

Don’t wait because these free spots could fill up very fast!


And if you know a friend who would benefit from working with me, please forward this email to them!

Are you dwelling on the past?

Are you dwelling on the past?

Hello love, I don’t know about you, but I got to a point where I was sick and tired of reading self-help books, spending hours in psychotherapy, and analyzing my past to figure out why I was so messed up.

Sound familiar?

Then watch my short little clip where I tell you why it’s a waste of time to keep analyzing your past, and what to do instead!

Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!

Are you under a dark cloud, too?

Are you under a dark cloud, too?

Most of the people I know who are honest enough to admit it told me they’ve had an impossibly shitty week.  Did you have an impossibly shitty week?

I did.

There’s nothing wrong about a stretch of bad days, of course.  We all have ’em.  No matter what kind of  a happy face someone puts on, and however much you think they have their lives all neat and together, they still deal with stuff.  We all have bad days.

The trick is to recognize how we react to these bad stretches.

When I felt a black cloud descend over me a few days ago, I got scared and immediately said to myself, “You shouldn’t feel this way. You know better.  Don’t give into this.”

Fortunately, I recognized this voice as not very nice, and so I did what I tell my coaching clients all the time.  I recognized the tightness in my gut and took a nice deep breath, then another.  And then another.  I said to myself, “I’m sorry I’m should-ing on you, honey.  Tell me, how are you feeling and what do you need?”

A flood of emotions came up.  Overwhelmed.  Tired.  I need a break from the kids.  I need to spend some quality time with my husband.  My dark cloud feelings had been a signal to tell me that I was out of balance.

When I was able to witness my feelings and needs from a compassionate, sane perspective, the dark cloud lifted.  A little.


So I want to ask you this: How are you talking to yourself?  How do you relate to your own feelings that you label as difficult?  Do you shut them down?  Tell yourself you shouldn’t feel this way?  Push through them by distracting yourself with food, internet, TV, work?  Are you stuffing your feelings, belittling yourself for feeling the way you do, judging yourself harshly?

How’s that working for you?

Probably not very well, at least not in the long term.  I’m an expert in this, since pushing through, stuffing down and criticizing myself were my number one coping strategies for most of my life.  This way of showing up with myself created depression and adrenal burn-out, and let me tell you: it wasn’t pretty.

Fortunately, I learned to recognize the signs of being mean to myself and what this does to my body, mind and spirit.  Although I still go through dark phases, I come through them faster, and they are less severe.

One thing I know: I’m a good mother and a good friend.  I’m a Mama Bear, and when I learned to turn that mothering side towards myself, towards the younger self inside of me, things really shifted in a big way.  When I take all the compassion I show for others and turn it towards myself, a create a safe container for my feelings – good ones and “bad” ones.

That’s where it’s at, Mama.

If you need help with this, contact me for a free coaching session.  You are not alone, you can 100 percent change your old patterns, and you can transform the mean way you talk to yourself.  I promise!


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12 + 6 =

What are the false beliefs you think are true, and how are they messing up your life?

I was raised in Germany, by a patriarchal father who believed in collective punishment. So whenever one of his four daughters did anything wrong, he ordered us to stand in a line from oldest to youngest, and made my mother hit us all with a wooden stick. Although my butt hurt after this discipline, what hurt even more was my spirit, because the truth was that I was the good one, the well-behaved one, the one who tried her darndest to never do anything wrong.

My father told us this form of discipline built character, but all it built in me was the belief that I was bad, and that I needed to be punished, no matter how hard I tried to be good.

And then, when my hormones kicked in at the age of 15 (I was a late bloomer), my goodness exploded in a puff of smoke and was replaced by fierce rebellion against my father’s unjust expectations. I was done being “good”. This got me kicked out of the house when I was 17, and I promptly moved in with my boyfriend and his family.

25 years later, I live in the United States and help women transform their lives as their life coach. I help them explore and evolve false beliefs that we all carry through life like the truth. We all make meaning from what happened to us when we were young, and since most of us didn’t have a sane, conscious, awake adult to explain what happened and that it wasn’t our fault, we walk through life looking through the lens of these false beliefs.

My false beliefs were “I’m bad”, “I’m not enough”, “I’m not worthy”, “I’m not wanted”, and every now and then “I’m alone” and “I’m not safe” get thrown in there.

The interesting thing is that these false beliefs live in our bodies, and whenever we get triggered by something, we drop right back into the young child that made meaning about herself, about others, and about life. So instead of showing up in life as a wise adult, the little four-year-old or eight-year-old in us is running the show.

Let me give you an example:

If you have parents or caregivers that didn’t express love to you when you were little, and even abandoned you (either emotionally or physically), you will make that mean that deep down, at the core of your identity, you are not wanted.

There was no sane, loving adult who explained to you, “Honey, the reason your parents don’t pay attention to you is that they are trying very hard to make money to provide for you. The reason they don’t express their love is that they never learned how, since they grew up with parents who never showed their love.”

And you didn’t, as a little kid, exclaim, “Ahhh, that makes sense. Let’s see, who could I turn to for support with this?”

No, you retreated into yourself and believed that you are not wanted, that other people don’t care about you, and that life is a cold, cruel place. This belief created a set of mechanisms that still play out when you’re an adult. So now, you show up in life in a way that actually creates evidence that validates this identity – and mostly, these ways of being are unconscious.

For example, you may talk in a disagreeable, combative tone of voice, which makes people not want to be around you, which then reinforces your false belief of not being wanted.

Or you might be a little bit oblivious and clueless about how our behavior is affecting other people, which could be hurtful or inconvenient for them, which in turn makes them retreat and have you feel like you are not wanted.

See how this works?

You may often feel left out or rejected, try to be someone you think others want you to be instead of being your authentic self, make friends with people who don’t appreciate you, not make as much money as you would like to.

Other people might find you difficult to be with and get drained by your energy, feel rejected by you, feel talked to as opposed to spoken with when they are with you.

Heavy stuff, right?

But here’s the good news: You can make these false beliefs conscious, and you can learn tools to help the younger self in your body make a different meaning that’s more empowered and aligned with the deeper truth.

From there, you get access to power and stop victimization, and you can look at the ways you have been showing up towards yourself, others, and life, that have created the painful patterns in your life you want to change.

And then the real magic happens: when you are aligned with the deeper truth, you then can identify new ways of showing up, practice new skills and new capacities, and from there create new outcomes that are totally aligned with your intention.

I have completely transformed these old identities through the kind of coaching that I offer.  I teach powerful tools and practices to evolve these old stories, and I am so grateful that I found this work!

If you would like to explore how this plays out in your life, you can schedule a free discover session with me.  It’s on me, because I think every woman deserves to be mothered!


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